Only once before in my life have I made things out of clay. When I was 12 my mother died after a short illness; it was the end of the summer holidays and two weeks later I was returned to boarding school 200 miles away from home and it was very hard. I felt different from everyone else now, and I was grieving and terribly homesick. One evening, after supper, my friend Louie suggested we go to the art room; it was closed and out of bounds of course and I was worried about being caught, but she was the youngest of three and fearless. I loved art, we both did, but as I headed for the paints, she went straight to the huge black clay bin, lifted the lid, dug out a lump of sticky and wet terracotta clay and put it in my hands. Gradually, as I started to feel and shape it, something inside me shifted into a calmer place. My mother had been an artist and I'm sure that being in that warm space, making and creating, helped me to feel connected to her.
Louie and I sneaked up there on our own whenever we could, and during those long autumn evenings before the bell rang for bed, we made things out of clay until the light faded and we could barely see our hands. We always had to put the clay back in the bin as if it had never been touched and we were never caught, but they must have known by the inevitable terracotta on our school uniforms. I’m glad they never stopped us because it became a sanctuary for me – it was healing and as I shaped and formed things with my hands, I was able to forget for a while so that, in time, life became more bearable and hopeful. When I was 14, I left to go to a school nearer home, leaving Louie and the clay behind, but what she did for me then was an act of extraordinary compassion and understanding in one so young - she seemed to instinctively know that the clay would help me, and it did. She went on to become a successful potter herself. And then, a whole lifetime later, I pull another chunk of clay out of another bag in another world, once again at a time when I need help, and I feel a jolt of recognition that moves me - I am momentarily 12 again, next to my new friend, my hands in the clay, making and creating.